CATDOLL : CATDOLL: As the saying goes, "If there are three things in a family, the family will be ruined and the people will die." What do the three things mean? Is it reasonable?

If a family has these three problems, then the family will definitely not be happy. I wonder which three problems you think they are. Let me tell you which three problems will lead to the breakdown of a family and the death of people. See if they make sense.

The first is gambling.

This gambling includes traditional card games and mahjong games, as well as modern gambling methods. We will talk about them later. However, no matter what kind of gambling it is, it is very deadly. If you have enough food and clothing, gambling may lead to losing all your wealth, or even destroying your family. I have a friend whose family used to be very well-off. Because the family had a small business, they were much more well-off than ordinary families. After they gradually became rich, they bought a big house and a luxury car. The family of four, one son and one daughter, lived happily together. It was really enviable. But later, a huge change occurred. The couple borrowed money everywhere, and it was heard that the woman wanted to divorce the man because this male friend fell in love with a "game". In fact, it is called a game only because its form is different from traditional gambling. To be more precise, it should be that he is keen on gambling. He lost a lot of money, and his original family assets were lost. He also borrowed money everywhere to pay off his debts, causing his wife and children to break up. This gambling really harms people.

The second item is drug abuse.

When it comes to drug abuse, it seems to be far away from our lives. Normally, everyone smokes, so who would take drugs? This is really a bit careless. In fact, some people around us may take drugs without knowing it, especially young people who are not familiar with the world and can easily go downhill. Getting addicted to drugs is very expensive and also very harmful to the body. Recalling how "opium" entered our country, you will know how much harm this thing does to the human body, and it is very expensive. If you get addicted, your family will definitely be ruined, no escape.

The third item is cheating.

Whether it is an affair or a man cheating, it is a heavy blow to the family. Such a rift in the originally harmonious family will not only bring disharmony to the family, but may also cast a shadow on the growth of the children. Some people cannot get over it and will do extreme things. The final result is the family is broken up.

People will always take some detours in their lives, but it is important to keep the general direction correct so that they can have a relatively harmonious, stable and smooth life.

These three short stories will show you a rural proverb: "If there are three things in a family, the family will be broken up and the people will die." Let everyone experience for themselves what the three things are, whether they make sense, and whether they must be eliminated in the future.

Yang Si was a well-known greedy man in the village. If someone's crops grew well, he would find a way to secretly move at least half of the crops home. If someone's family raised sheep in the mountains, Yang Si would seize the opportunity to steal the sheep. Not only was Yang Si greedy, he was also vicious and often bullied the honest people in the village. In the words of the old people in the village: He was a man with sores on his head and pus on his feet. He was extremely bad!

Bad people will naturally be punished. It's not that there is no retribution but that the time has not come. That year, a beekeeper came to the village. Yang Si took his thirteen-year-old son to watch the beekeeper harvest honey. As the old saying goes, adults resemble children. While Yang Si was chatting with the beekeeper, Yang's forty-three-year-old son secretly took away a bucket of honey. The child was also evil. He moved a bucket of fifty kilograms of honey to the grass forty or fifty meters away.

The beekeeper is a businessman who always cares about and pays attention to his things. He soon discovered that a bucket of honey was missing, so he hurried to look for it. When he saw Yang Si's son hiding in the bushes guarding a bucket of honey, he just scolded the child and wanted to go back with the honey. Who knew that Yang Si's son was the same as his father. Once he got something, he would not let go. He cried and shouted, grabbing the honey and yelling, saying that the beekeeper had beaten him.

Yang Si tried to grab the honey based on the reason given by his son, saying that it was compensation for beating someone. The three of them fought over it and the beekeeper got angry. He was so angry that he pulled out a knife from his waistband and started fighting with Yang Si. During the fight, Yang Si's son joined in and was accidentally stabbed in the chest by the knife. His face turned pale and someone called the emergency number. The child was dead when the ambulance arrived.

I once heard old people say that you can’t make a fortune by stealing. After his son passed away, Yang Si still made a living by stealing, but his life became more and more burdensome. In the end, his wife divorced him and returned to her parents’ home, leaving the sad place. Eventually, Yang Si’s family was broken up.

Sister Liu is pretty and clean, and her husband is an honest man in the village. Sister Liu is not only beautiful, but also good at managing her life, capable at work, and good at talking. There is only one bad thing about her, which is that she is too competitive and too comparative.

That year, her daughter was in junior high school. Sister Liu kept complaining: "My best friend's child was admitted to a key high school. You should also win honor for your mother. Let's also be admitted to a key high school." Her daughter couldn't eat or sleep well because of her mother's nagging. She was upset every day after listening to her mother's nagging. Finally, one day, Sister Liu was called to school by the school teacher and was told that her child was not in a good mood and seemed a little neurotic. So she rushed to the hospital for a check-up and found that the child had depression.

Sister Liu lived in comparison all her life. When other families bought refrigerators, she would buy one too. Whatever other families had, her family had to have it too, even if she didn’t eat or drink. If she couldn’t compare with others, she would get very angry. She lived in comparison, calculation, and anger every day, and she was never in a good mood. So when she was 46 years old, she got stomach cancer, her daughter had depression, and she had stomach cancer. All the money in the family was used for treatment. The competitive Sister Liu finally couldn’t fight anymore, and her life became less and less like life. Later, she died in her early 50s, and her daughter became mentally ill. It’s no exaggeration to say that her family was broken up.

There was such a man in Gaojiazhuang. If anyone wanted him to help, it would be harder than climbing to the sky. The villagers called him a traitor. In those days, there was a slightly stupid man in the village who was pushing a cart. He couldn't push it up the hill. This man was there, and no matter how the slightly stupid man begged him to help pull the cart, he refused to help, and was despised by the villagers.

Later one evening he was riding his bicycle home from work. It was just getting dark. When the man arrived at a cornfield two miles away from the village, he heard a girl shouting for help in the cornfield. He didn't even get off the bicycle and went straight home.

After returning home, he sat and watched TV. The wife, who was cooking in the kitchen, finished cooking, looked at the dark sky, and asked the man: "Didn't you see our daughter Ni on the road? She went to her friend's house in the afternoon, and she should be back by now." When the man heard this, he immediately heard the girl's cry for help, his face turned pale, and he quickly rode his bike to the cornfield.

However, when he arrived at the cornfield, he saw only the girl lying on the ground. The criminal had already escaped. The girl was his precious daughter who had grown up in his arms. This incident made him regretful to the core. Later, his wife and daughter disowned him because of this incident. His wife divorced him and left with the daughter who was hurt both physically and mentally.

These three stories tell us that it is not just the bad habits of eating, drinking, whoring and gambling that can lead to the destruction of a family. Excessive greed, excessive comparison and excessive selfishness are also the main reasons for the destruction of a family. It is normal for a family to be destroyed if these three problems exist!

The first one is the bad habit of gambling. This is of course reasonable. If there is a person in the family who is addicted to studying for a doctorate, then no matter how rich the family is, it will be lost. There are many cases on TV. There are also many cases around me. For example: my relative lost hundreds of thousands of yuan while studying for a doctorate and fled (more than ten years ago); my college classmate lost all his tuition fees on the train...

The second point is the discord between husband and wife. This also makes sense. The discord between parents first affects the healthy growth of children. Secondly, the ancients said: "A harmonious family brings prosperity" and "Harmony brings wealth". These are all reasonable. You can recall the cases around you.

The third is poor parenting. A child can really drag down the family. Good education is like "Mencius' mother moved three times", while bad education, over-pampering, leads to children spending money without restraint, and many children jump off buildings due to loans; parents neglect to pay attention to their children being bullied in school.

There should be four items:

1. Improper family traditions

People often say that parents are the best teachers for their children. Everything a parent says and does will affect the healthy development of their children. As the inheritor of a family, a child plays a connecting role in the prosperity of the family. However, some parents neglect to discipline their children, which makes them develop an arrogant and domineering character and often do some extraordinary things. Instead of correcting their mistakes, parents repeatedly protect them. This is not loving children, but harming children. Some parents even do some overbearing and unreasonable things in front of their children, which invisibly affects their children. Sometimes children learn from their parents. If a child grows up in such an environment, it is estimated that he will not achieve anything when he grows up, and he may even go astray. What we leave to our children is not a mountain of gold and silver. No matter how much wealth we have, there will be a day when it will be spent. We want them to inherit a good family tradition, which is a family heirloom.

2. Contaminated by bad things

There are many bad habits, but the most harmful one is gambling. Gambling is not only illegal, but also ruins the family. How many happy families have been ruined because of gambling? People are often curious and greedy, always thinking that they can get rich overnight at the gambling table. Such money comes easily, and finally they become addicted to it and cannot extricate themselves, and suffer greatly. Not only did they not get rich, but they became penniless, squandering all the money in the family and being burdened with debts. Gambling is a bottomless pit, that is, a road of no return. Once again, I warn those friends who are addicted to gambling to quit early and turn back, otherwise they will end up with their wives and children separated, their families ruined, and they will regret it too late.

When living at home, what people hope for most is a harmonious family. If a family is often not harmonious, it will not only hurt the family. The main reasons for family disharmony are external and internal factors. Today, let's talk about the rural saying "If there are three things in the family, the family will be broken and the people will die." What do these three things refer to? Is there any truth to it?

The bad habit of gambling is the first thing that ruins a family.

A gentleman loves money, but he gets it in a proper way. It is not wrong for people to like gold, silver and treasures, as long as they get some money through legitimate means. However, some people always want to get something for nothing, and want to get more money in a short time through some unconventional ways. Therefore, gambling has become a way for many people to make quick money, but they don’t know that as the saying goes, "nine out of ten gamblers lose", there is no general who always wins in the casino, only gamblers who always lose.

Some people are addicted to gambling all day long, starting with small bets and gradually moving on to big bets, and finally to big bets. However, things did not develop in the way some gamblers imagined, but instead caused many gamblers to lose again and again, and finally lost their savings of many years and their own houses. Sadly, a good family was thrown into chaos and the wife and children were separated. Therefore, there are three things in the family, and the first one is gambling.

Infidelity is the second leading cause of family breakup

Our ancestors said that "only when the family is harmonious can everything be prosperous." If two people in a family are of one mind and willing, they can overcome the current difficulties and live a colorful life in the future. However, from ancient times to the present, there are always some people who "cannot stand loneliness and temptation", resulting in "cheating", and in serious cases, causing family separation. In ancient times, there was Pan Jinlian and Ximen Qing, and now there is Mou Rong and her agent, and such things have never stopped.

In this regard, the author believes that the acquaintance of two people is fate, and the formation of a family by two people is a matter of thousands of years. "It takes a hundred years to cross the same boat, and a thousand years to sleep on the same pillow." In a family, only when two people understand each other, can withstand the temptation from the outside, respect each other and tolerate each other, can they live a more prosperous life. As long as one of them does not live a peaceful life, a "sugar-coated bullet" will be captured by external temptations and eventually lead to infidelity. However, according to many examples, people whose families are separated because of one person's infidelity do not live a good life in the end.

Laziness is the third reason families break up

A family cannot live without money, and money is the foundation of life. However, divorces among some young people are common nowadays, and the most important reason for divorce among young people is "laziness". Compared with those born in the 1970s and 1980s, those born in the 1990s are far behind those born in the 1970s in terms of diligence. In particular, some people born in the 1990s always skip work if they disagree with something, and quit their jobs if they don't get what they want.

Although some young people have quit their jobs, for newly married young people, food, clothing, housing and transportation are all expenses. However, due to the laziness of young people, in the real society, a good family is broken up by laziness.

There is a rural proverb: "If there are three things in a family, the family will be ruined and the people will die." This saying is very reasonable. These three things are not allowed to be touched by rural people or urban people. Only by restraining oneself and not being tempted by the outside world can the family be run in harmony. If one person in a family has one of the above three reasons, the future is doomed to be in disharmony. In this regard, I also want to advise those who get something for nothing that nothing can be achieved easily.

As the saying goes: "If there are three items in the house, the family will be broken up and the people will die." What do the three items refer to? Does it make sense?

I was deeply touched by the question you raised, and I think this proverb makes a lot of sense.

I heard this proverb from my grandparents when I was a child. I was too young to understand it then. Now that I have grown up and have a family, I feel that the three items mentioned in the proverb are like invisible bombs for a family.

Any one of them can be a fatal fuse and can really lead to the destruction of a family.

Item 1:

It is family education. Parents must not neglect or indulge their children in education; they must not indulge their children without principles and without bottom line.

Dzerzhinsky said, "If parents dote on and pamper their children and satisfy their willful demands, they will grow up to be corrupt and become weak-willed and selfish. Therefore, parental love should not be blind..."

Families that fail in education are the sorrow of their children, parents, and the whole family!

I know a couple who dote on their child. As a result, the child develops bad habits, is lazy and idle, and does nothing even when he grows up. He borrows money everywhere under the name of his parents and squanders it, and has all kinds of bad habits.

It brings great psychological and mental harm to the elderly parents, and the family is heavily in debt. It is too late for the parents to regret it!

There are also various bad and educationally failed family situations: lack of closeness and harmony between siblings, disputes and fights among family members that lead to serious consequences... and so on.

Such a family is like a battlefield filled with smoke, without affection and warmth. How can it be called a home? Such a family is in name only!

Item 2

It's a bad habit.

This proverb is about gambling. It warns future generations not to have a gambling habit. Because once you get addicted to gambling, you will lose everything in your home. Is it still a home if you have nothing?

When I was a child, there was a neighbor in my village who loved gambling. His family was not rich, and he lost all his money. His wife quarreled with him and went back to her parents' home in anger.

He still didn't repent. If he didn't quit gambling and continued gambling, what would he do if he had no money? He went to a nearby forest farm to cut down trees and sell them for money. Later, he was caught by the police and sentenced to prison. His family was ruined!

Item 3

It means harmony between husband and wife. Husband and wife must respect each other and love each other. If husband and wife have conflicts and quarrels, and abuse each other, hatred will accumulate over time. In this way, life will be unbearable, and how can the family not fall apart?

I saw a news report a few days ago: A couple was arguing while driving on the highway. The argument was so intense that the husband kicked his wife out of the car and drove away. The wife was walking alone on the highway and was later found by the police, who saved her life.

What a terrible moment! Many tragedies could happen! How can you feel safe in a shaky home?

This proverb has been passed down from generation to generation and is a proverb about the rise and fall of a family!

"A harmonious family brings prosperity" A harmonious family brings prosperity!

The first thing is wild flowers entering the house. In the past, people called married daughters wild flowers, so wild flowers entering the house represented the son-in-law and daughter returning home to sleep together. The ancients believed that such a thing was a very unlucky thing and would bring disaster to the family, so it was also said that "the son-in-law goes to bed, the family will be broken up." Later, it gradually evolved into the saying that home flowers are not as fragrant as wild flowers. The wild flowers here represent women outside. No matter in ancient times or modern times, people advocate that a harmonious family is the foundation of all things. A harmonious relationship between husband and wife is the basis for ensuring family stability. Therefore, if a woman from outside is brought home, it does prove that the family is broken up.

The second thing is to add a wall to a wall. This term refers to the process of building a house. The old house has been used for many years. If it is only for economic reasons, the foundation of the old house will be unstable and collapse. The higher the house is, the thicker the foundation must be. This kind of building with a new wall has great potential dangers. Once there is a strong wind and rain, it is very easy to collapse, which will have a bad impact on the family.

There is also a saying that fruit trees should be on top of the house. This saying means that the fruit trees planted in the yard cannot be higher than the house. If the fruit trees are too high, they will easily block the sunlight from entering the room, resulting in insufficient light in the room, which will also affect the mood of the residents. Another thing is that the roots of trees that are too tall are also complicated and can easily affect the foundation of the house, so there is a risk of the family being destroyed.

"Family" is of great importance to us Chinese. As the saying goes: A harmonious family brings prosperity. We all hope to have a harmonious family, but the saying "If there are three things in a family, the family will be broken and the people will die" is so serious. What do these "three things" refer to?

Item 1: Gambling

"Small gambling brings joy, big gambling hurts the body." This truth is known to everyone and has been proven by countless people since ancient times. However, gambling is still rampant despite repeated bans. Nine out of ten gamblings are lost. Many people end up selling their children, their families are broken up, and their wives and children are separated. How can a family not break up when it comes to "pornography, gambling, and drugs"?

Item 2: Marital discord

The husband and wife are the two most core figures in a family. They bear the responsibility of taking care of the elderly and raising children. If the couple is not in harmony, the parents will be worried and their health will be difficult to maintain. The children will also be worried because of their parents' endless quarrels, and they will easily lack self-confidence when they grow up. Such a family will never be harmonious no matter what, and will end in misery.

Item 3: Lack of Family Education

Family education is of great significance to the growth of children. If you want your children to be successful, you must let them receive a good education. Parents' words and deeds have the deepest and longest-lasting influence on children. The quality of family education is crucial to the development of children's character. Without good family education, children are likely to go astray when they grow up.

Of course, there is also a saying that these "three items" refer to "pornography, gambling and drugs."

No matter which one it refers to, the saying "If there are three items in a family, the family will be broken up and the people will die" still makes sense. The wisdom of the ancients should never be underestimated!

There are three things in a family: the family is broken up and people die. What are the three things in a family?

First: Being addicted to gambling, small gambling can lead to mistakes in work, big gambling can lead to losses in the family and the country, and can even lead to crime, leading to the tragic situation of family breakdown.

Second: being lazy and gluttonous, a family of all ages, men and women are idle, running around without a proper job or career. They either go to sing or play cards, and spend all day, month, or year without doing any serious work, going to dance halls and game rooms to spend a lot of money to seek excitement, just enjoying the good things in life. If you are like this, you will quickly squander the money in a big family.

Third: Family quarrels and fights are also a sign of ruin. A harmonious family brings prosperity. As the saying goes, a quarrelsome pig sells, a quarrelsome man ruins. If a family quarrels every day, how can they concentrate on work and earn money to support their family? In addition, quarrels are not good for the growth of children. Without a harmonious and warm family, children will not grow up to be useful and smart talents.

In short, these three items will not have good results in every family, and are not conducive to family harmony and development. It is not difficult to get rid of these three items. The difficult part is for those who know there is a tiger in the mountain and still insist on going into the mountain. In this way, they are hopeless.

I was lucky enough to see this topic today, so I will answer it. Actually, my father often talked about this topic when I was young, but it was not three items, but five items: prostitution, banditry, theft, gambling, and teaching.

Prostitutes, bandits, thieves, gamblers, and religions,

I advise you to remember this.

If there is one offense,

There is no escape from disaster.

Prostitute: It refers to men whoring. In the past society, there were brothels, which were places where some romantic men had fun, also called brothels. If a man was involved in prostitution, he would be hopeless. Even if he had a fortune, he would still be ruined by prostitution. Once a man entered a brothel, he would also be involved in drug abuse. Do you know what the consequences of drug abuse are?

Bandit: In the past, they went up the mountain to become bandits, killing people and robbing property. If they had political purposes and political backgrounds, they were called a certain insurgent army, or a certain army. They had strict disciplines, and the government would never let them go. If one person became a bandit, the whole family would be destroyed. If there was a person in a family who became a bandit, the whole family would be executed if they were found out by the government.

Thief: refers to a big thief, not a petty thief. He is not allowed by the society. In the past society, if a thief was caught, he would not be sentenced to a few years in prison like now, but would be beheaded and his entire family would be executed.

Gambling: It also means gambling. As the saying goes, adultery leads to murder, gambling leads to theft, and there is no winner in long-term gambling. Many gamblers have gone bankrupt and ended up in jail because of losing their fortunes in gambling.

Finally, let's talk about teaching: this teaching is the most important. A family as parents and elders is crucial to the growth of children. As parents or elders, they should teach by words and deeds. The words and deeds of parents and elders are an inducement for children's growth.

Some parents and elders do not pay attention to their words and deeds, style, manners, bad habits, bad words, and incorrect values ​​in front of their children, which leads to their children not having a correct life goal when they grow up. They may even commit crimes or go to a dead end in life.

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